M. K. Abugharbieh
Senior Software Engineer. Systems Thinker. Author of Better With Every Loop.
Senior Software Engineer. Systems Thinker. Author of Better With Every Loop.
M. K. Abugharbieh is a senior software engineer with over a decade of experience designing and building complex systems. He holds dual engineering degrees and has spent his career in the world of software, a world that, as he discovered, had a great deal to teach him about how to run a better life.
During the pandemic, while his career continued to thrive, the other domains of his life quietly fell apart. His health deteriorated to the point that he reached 340 lbs, not from lack of knowing what to do, but from relying on the wrong tools to fix it. Motivation. Willpower. New year's resolutions. None of it held. The system kept producing the same output no matter how many times he tried to force a different result.
What ultimately changed things wasn't discipline. It was design. He recognized that the same feedback-loop principles he applied to software every day (root-cause analysis, prototyping, iterative improvement, measurement) could be applied to his personal systems just as rigorously. He started treating his health, his habits, his relationships, and his finances like engineering problems: diagnosing them, building minimum viable solutions, measuring what actually happened, and adjusting based on what he learned.
Better With Every Loop is the documented result of that process. It is a practical, engineer-inspired framework for mapping your life as a system, identifying where your loops are broken, and redesigning them, not with more willpower, but with better architecture.
"The pandemic was a stress test I didn’t know I was failing. My career was fine: I kept shipping code, hitting deadlines, solving complex problems. But outside of work, my health had quietly unraveled. I was at 340 pounds and genuinely couldn’t understand why the same person who could debug distributed systems at work couldn’t seem to debug himself at home. Then I stopped treating it as a motivation problem and started treating it as a systems problem. Everything changed."
The shift wasn't complicated. I started applying what I already knew (root-cause analysis, feedback loops, iterative prototyping, measurement) to my own life. I stopped asking “why can't I be more disciplined?” and started asking “what is this system actually designed to produce?” The difference in outcomes was dramatic. And it made me realize that the tools that change lives were already inside every engineer's toolkit. We just weren't applying them to ourselves.
I wrote this book because I spent years looking for a resource that approached personal growth the way I approach technical problems: with structure, curiosity, and a bias toward iteration over perfection. I wanted to give people the framework I had to build myself: not a pep talk, but an operating manual. Because you don't have a discipline problem. You have a design problem.
M. K. Abugharbieh
Author, Better With Every Loop
M. K. is available for speaking engagements, podcasts, and workshops, bringing the engineering-meets-personal-growth perspective of Better With Every Loop to audiences who are ready to stop guessing and start designing.